In today's Asking Eric column, R. Eric Thomas responds to someone who wants to avoid being around their husband's ex-wife.

Third benefit: therapy can help you unpack the implications of these stories your ex-wife is telling about you. Even if there’s not even a kernel of truth to them, the fact that

I never told my three children (now adults, early 30s) about the affairs to protect their relationships with their mother. Over the last five years, she has alienated my kids against me with a series of false stories.

In today's Asking Eric column, R. Eric Thomas responds to a question about a family blowup following an intervention.

Over the last five years, she has alienated my kids against me with a series of false stories. I don’t know the details and my children are not willing to share. I live on the other side of the country,

I think of my husband’s child as my own and would never want to hurt them in dealing with their mother. What is the best way to avoid unwanted, unwarranted, and snarky comments? There is an upcoming wedding and I just dread being around her.

The second potential benefit: it’s a good faith gesture that could show your kids that you’re serious about repairing your relationship. Advice | Dear Mom: I’m so sorry. This estrangement has clearly sent shockwaves through your family.

In today's Asking Eric column, R. Eric Thomas responds to someone who wants to repair their relationship with their estranged children.